thefinalmessage|THE FRIDAY NOTE
Weekly Hadith – Testing Times
Regarding trials that we will be subjected to, Allah (Subhan wa ta'aala) tell us in the Qur'an,
"Or do you think that you shall enter the Garden (of bliss) without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? they encountered suffering and adversity, and were so shaken in spirit that even the Messenger and those of faith who were with him cried: 'When (will come) the help of Allah?' Ah! Verily, the help of Allah is (always) near!
[Baqarah, Verse 214]
And as a comfort, He (Subhana wa ta’aala) also reminds us,
“for indeed, with hardship (will be) ease, indeed with hardship (will be) ease”
The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “The people who are tested the most severely are the Prophets, then the righteous, then the next best and the next best, and a man will be tested in accordance with his level of religious commitment; the stronger his religious commitment, the more severe will be his test ….”.
Every test and adversity that we face in this world is a positive opportunity that Allah bestows on us to manifest our imaan (faith) and tawakkal (trust in Allah). It shows that our Lord and Creator is attentive towards us, which itself is an immeasurable blessing, and it is our chance to reciprocate this by reacting in the manner He has prescribed. It is said when the Sahaba (radiAllahu'anhuma) would not face any trials in their lives for a period, they would turn to Allah (subhana wa ta'aala) in sadness and ask if He had forgotten them. While it is easy to get smothered and weighed down by the immediate challenges that trials pose, we should always bear in mind that the fact that Allah is testing us is a sign that we are close to Him, and our patience will be recompensed in a befitting manner according to His promise. Belief in this itself is enough to give any believer the strength to endure and persevere through any adversity he or she is faced with insha'Allah.
Pearls of Wisdom;
"He who is greedy is disgraced; he who discloses his hardship will be humiliated, he who has no control over his tongue will often have to face discomfort."
[Ali ibn Abi Talib, radiAllahu'anhu)]
Q. Wailing and Visiting graves?
Praise be to Allaah.
In the Name of Allah, the most Merciful,
Visiting graves is not permissible for women. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Visit the graves, for they remind you of death and the Hereafter,” addressing men. And he used to teach his Companions to say, when they visited graves, “Al-salaamu ‘alaykum ahl al-diyaar min al-mu’mineen wa’l-Muslimeen, wa inna in sha Allaah lalaahiqoon. As’al Allaah lana wa lakum al-‘aafiyah (Peace be upon you, O inhabitants of the graves, believers and Muslims. Verily we will, in sha Allaah, join you. I ask Allaah for well-being for us and for you).” But in the case of women, he forbade them to do that.
The curse on women who visit graves is mentioned in several ahaadeeth, so it is not permissible for women to visit graves, but it is prescribed for them to pray for forgiveness and mercy for their deceased loved ones, and to pray that they be admitted to Paradise and saved from Hell, without visiting the graves; they can pray for them at home. There is also nothing to prevent them offering the funeral prayer for the deceased in the mosque or prayer-place, as the women offered the funeral prayer at the time of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and at the time of his Companions.
With regard to wailing and listening, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade wailing and said: “There are four matters of jaahiliyyah that exist among my ummah and they will not give them up: boasting about one’s forefathers, casting aspersions upon people’s lineages, seeking rain by the stars and wailing for the dead.” And he said: “If the woman who wails does not repent before she dies, she will be raised on the Day of Resurrection wearing pants of tar and a chemise of scabs.”
[Narrated by Muslim in his Saheeh]
So the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) explained that wailing for the dead is a blameworthy act of jaahiliyyah and it must not be done. Umm ‘Atiyyah said: The Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) took a pledge from us when we swore allegiance, that we would not wail. And Abu Dawood (may Allah have mercy on him) narrated in his Sunan from Abu Sa‘eed (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) that he cursed the woman who wails and the one who listen to her. There is some weakness in its isnaad, but there is corroborating evidence for its meaning, so wailing is haraam and reprehensible, and it is not permissible for a woman to be involved in wailing, or for a man to do that either.
Wailing refers to raising the voice when weeping and saying, “O my support, O one who clothed me, O how sad I am” and so on. The one who listens is the woman who listens to the ones who are wailing and encourages them, so she sits with them and encourages them to wail. This is included because sitting with them is a kind of encouragement. So it is not permissible to listen to them. If the one who is wailing will not be quiet, it is obligatory to leave her and not sit with her, by way of shunning her and denouncing her. If a woman sits with her and listens to her, this is a kind of help and encouragement.
So it is not permissible to listen to one who is wailing; rather she should denounce her and tell her not to do that. If she stops, all well and good, otherwise you should leave her and not sit with her and listen to her.
May Allaah help us all to do that which He loves and which pleases Him. May Allaah send blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad.
And Allaah knows best.
Weekly Suggested Good Deed – Shake Hands;
Al-Bara' (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (salAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said, "Two Muslims will not meet and shake hands without having their sins forgiven (by Allah ) before they depart.''
When we see a brother we may smile and say salam from a distance. While smiling is prescribed and has been described as a saqadah, we should maximize the easy reward that this situation has to offer by also shaking hands with the brother. Very little effort, very significant reward.
Dua of the Week;
Dua of Nuh ('alayhis salam) to invoke Allah's Help in Adversity:
فَانتَصِرْ مَغْلُوبٌ أَنِّي رَبَّهُ فَدَعَا
“Fada’aa rabbahu annee maghloobun fantasir”
So he invoked His Lord, ‘Indeed I am overpowered,so help’