Thursday, 13 September 2012

Avoiding Anger, Controlling Anger, Be Inspired, Duah for removing anger



thefinalmessage|THE FRIDAY NOTE

Weekly Hadith – Avoiding Arguing;
The Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Whoever does not argue when he is in the wrong will have a home built for him on the edge of Paradise. Whoever avoids it when he in the right will have a home built for him in the middle of Paradise. And whoever improves his own character, a home will be built for him in the highest part of Paradise.”
[Tirmidhi]

Arguing with people is strongly discouraged in Islam. We are to state our point of view and then leave it at that. Nor are we to involve ourselves in matters that do not affect a person’s deen. Note that a person is to shun argument whether he is in the right or whether his stand is wrong. Both get houses built for them in Paradise. But since the person who knows that he is right finds it more difficult to leave the argument and let things be, he/she is promised a greater reward.

Arguing with people rarely gets anyone to change their minds. It usually only produces defensiveness and creates ill feelings between people. The issue becomes a matter of one’s ego and makes it more difficult for a person to change their stance. Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) loves to have Muslims live harmoniously with each other. Try this hadith out in practice, and you will see that your relations improve with people and that you have greater peace of mind.



Pearls of Wisdom; 
"The person I like the most is one who points out my defects"
[Umar Ibn Khattab (radhiAllahu anhu)]



Weekly Q&A;
Q.  I get angry very quickly. What can I do to rid myself of this awful trait?

Praise be to Allaah. 
In the Name of Allah, the most Merciful and Compassionate,

Anger is something both the Shariah and the sound intellect regard as generally blameworthy. This is why the Beloved of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) told the one who sought his counsel, "Don’t get angry," repeatedly.

The scholars recommend many measures to deal with anger, including:

1. Turn to Allah in supplication, in order to control one's anger. One should turn to Allah with one's heart and tongue, asking him to rid one of anger, and all other lowly traits. If you can do this using the supplications of the Beloved of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), it is even more beloved to Allah.
A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reports that, the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) entered while she was angry. 'So he rubbed the tip of my nose and said, "My little A'isha. Say, O' Allah, forgive my sin, remove the anger in my heart, and protect me from Satan." (Allahumma'Ghfirli dhanbi, wa adhhib ghaydha qalbi, wa aajirni min ash-shaytan)".
[Ibn al-Sunni, as mentioned in Barkawi's Tariqa al-Muhammadiyya] 
2. Silence - Do not say anything when angry, lest it contravene the Sacred Law, or go against your personal or social interests.
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, "If you get angry, stay silent."
[Ahmad]
3. Change your physical posture - The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) is reported to have said, "If you get angry while standing, sit down. If you get angry while sitting, lie down." The wisdom in this is that it prevents one from doing that which one's anger would have made one do in that posture.
4. Perform ritual ablutions - The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) informed us that anger is from Satan, and he was created from fire, so we should extinguish anger with ritual ablutions.
[Abu Dawud]
5. Follow the counsel of the Best of Creation (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) - His repeated counsel for the one who sought advice was, "Do not get angry."
[Bukhari]
6. Remember the great reward mentioned by Allah for those who control their anger - "And vie with one another for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Paradise as wide as are the heavens and the earth, prepared for those fear Allah (al-muttaqin); Those who spend (of that which Allah has given them) in ease and in adversity, those who control their wrath, and are forgiving toward mankind; and Allah loves the good. And those who, when they do an evil deep or wrong themselves, remember Allah and implore forgiveness for their sins. And who forgives sins but Allah?..."
[Qur’an, 3: 133-135]
7. Remember that true strength is not physical, but spiritual and moral - The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, "The strong one is not one who can out-wrestle others. Rather, the strong one is one who can restrain themselves when angry.
[Bukhari& Muslim]
8. Remember the example of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) - Remember the clemency, forbearance, and easy-going nature of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) with others, and did not get angry unless the anger was for the sake of Allah. The examples of this from his life are numerous. The scholars say that every Muslim should strive to read about the life and example of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) daily.
9. Remember the harms of anger - Be aware of the harms of anger, which include falling into that which Allah deems impermissible of words or actions, and acting in a way unbefitting of a believer. Would we act like this if we were aware that Allah sees all our actions? Would we act like this in the presence of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam)?

May Allah Almighty keep us all steadfast on his Deen and shelter us from the evil of the shaytan, Ameen.

And Allaah (SWT) knows best.



Weekly Suggested Good Deed – Be Inspired; 
There are many well recognised books which provide a wealth of detail on the life of the Prophet of Islam (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam). These include:
1.       'Ar-Raheeq Al-Makhtoom' (The Sealed Nectar, by Safiur Rahman Mubarakpuri);  
2.       'The Noble Life of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) ' (Dr.Ali Muhammad As-Sallaabee, 3 vols); 
3.       'Our Master Muhammad (SAW)'(Sh.Muhammad Yahya al-Ninowy);
4.       'As Seerah an-Nabawiyyah' (Ibn Hishaam),

amongst many others, which are all readily available in bookshops and on the internet. 
So we should try and make an effort to get hold of these priceless resources and educate ourselves regarding the Seerah of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam).
The Noble Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) was the best and most complete role-model, sent down as a blessing  from Allah (SWT) to all of humanity. He was the true personification of the Word of Allah (SWT). The more we learn about his immaculate character and ettiquettes, and endeavour to implement these to ourselves, the closer we will bring ourselves to Allah (SWT), thus resulting in inevitable succeess in this world and the Hereafter insha'Allah.  


Dua of the Week;

Transliteration: 
“'Aootho bilahee mina shaytaan irajeem"

Translation:
“ I seek refuge in Allah from Satan, the rejected one."

This supplication was recommended by the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) to remove anger from one's heart.
[Bukhari]

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