thefinalmessage|THE FRIDAY NOTE
Weekly Hadith – Impact of Minor Sins;
When referring to disobeying His commandments, Allah (Subhana wa ta’ala) says in the Glorious Quran: “You counted it a little thing, while with Allah it was very great.”
Our beloved Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasallam) said, "Beware of the minor sins which are often thought of as insignificant, for they are like a group of people who stopped in the bottom of a valley. One of them brought a stick, and another brought a stick, until they had gathered enough to cook their food. These minor sins, if a person is called to account for them, will destroy him."
According to another report, he said: "Beware of minor sins, for they will pile up until they destroy a person."
Minor sins are acts which are displeasing to Allah but for which no specific punishment or severe warning has been issued. In this case, a Muslim's conscience and heart help him to know that an act is sinful. We often don’t think much of our small disobediences, and are less conscious of refraining from them. However, minor sins can easily lead someone to commit a major sin, and repeatedly committing a minor sin will change its status to that of a major sin. Furthermore, habitual sinning causes a Muslim to lose faith and disregard the commandments of Allah.
Hence we should be just as mindful of not falling into minor sins as we are of abstaining from major sins. The statement of Ibn Masud (radiAllahu anhu) sums up the attitude that a believer should retain towards sinning, when he says, "The believer regards his sin as if he were sitting beneath a mountain which he fears may fall on him, whereas the sinner regards his sin as if a fly lands on his nose and he swipes it away."
May our Rabb, al-Ghafoor, al-Ghaffar, forgive us our sins, both major and minor, which we may have indulged in knowingly or unknowingly, and cement our resolve to abstain from falling into disobedience towards Him through our frailties, Ameen.
Pearls of Wisdom – Tempation to Sin;
"Avoiding the temptation to sin and being patient upon that, is greater than being patient whilst being afflicted with trials."
[Sheikh-ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (RahimAllah)]
Q. I performed the obligatory Hajj last year, praise be to Allah. My mother has not done Hajj and she is over 65 years of age. Because of her health and the situation in Egypt, she is not able to do Hajj. My father died this year at the age of 80; he did Hajj twenty years ago. Is it better for me to do Hajj on behalf of my father, for whom I hope for speedy forgiveness from Allah, and I do not want to wait until next year, or should I do Hajj on behalf of my mother who has not done Hajj before? Is it essential for me to take money from her wealth for the expenses of Hajj? Or is it permissible for me to pay for it, even though my mother has enough money for that?
Praise be to Allaah.
In the Name of Allah, the most Merciful and Compassionate,
If your mother is unable to do Hajj herself for a reason for which there is no hope of an end, and she has enough money to do Hajj, then she should appoint someone to do Hajj
With regard to whether your Hajj this year should be on behalf of your father or your mother:
The answer is that you should do it on behalf of your mother. That is for two reasons:
1. Hajj on behalf of your mother is obligatory, because she has not done Hajj before, whereas Hajj on behalf of your father would be naafil (supererogatory), and what is obligatory takes precedence over what is naafil.
2. If there is a conflict between the rights of the father and the rights of the mother, then the rights of the mother take precedence, because she has three times the rights of the father. That is indicated by the report [narrated by al-Bukhaari (5971) and Muslim (2548)] from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: A man came to the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and said: Which of the people is most deserving of my good companionship? He said: “Your mother.” He said: Then who? He said: “Then your mother.” He said: Then who? He said: “Then your mother.” He said: Then who? He said: “Then your father.”
Al-Qurtubi said: What is meant is that the mother is entitled to the greater share of the son’s kindness, and she takes precedence in the case of a conflict with the father’s rights. ‘Iyaad said: The majority are of the view that the mother takes precedence over the father with regard to the son’s kindness. And it was said that their rights are the same, but the former view is more correct. End quote from [Fath al-Baari, 10/402]
With regard to your saying “I asked my mother to be pleased with me in this world and in the Hereafter, and never to be angry, and I asked my brothers to bear witness to that, knowing that I always try to make her pleased with me”, there is nothing wrong with your asking her to be pleased with you in this world. But with regard to asking her to be pleased with you in the Hereafter, this is something that cannot be guaranteed in this world; it is something that one cannot be certain about.
The Hereafter is something unknown (ghayb) and no one can be certain about anything with regard to it.
So continue striving to please her and honour her until you attain that.
With regard to your father, your du‘aa’ for him is better than doing Hajj on his behalf, so offer a lot of du‘aa’ for him. “and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young’” [al-Isra’ 17:24].
And Allah is the source of strength; may Allah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu alayhi wasallam) and his family and Companions (radiAllahu anhuma).
And Allaah (SWT) knows best.
Weekly Suggested Good Deed – Be The Reconciler;
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “Shall I not tell you of something that is better than fasting, prayer and charity?”They said: Yes.He said: “Reconciling between two people, for the corruption of that which is between the hearts is the shaver (destroyer). It is the shaver, and I do not say that it shaves hair, rather that it shaves religious commitment.”
[al-Tirmidhi - hasan]
Unfortunately we live in a time, where many people have disputes with each other based the most minor of issues, and will stop speaking to each other for a long period of time, and over time what started as a disagreement will grow into resentment. As Muslims, we have been commanded to be unified and reconcile between disputing parties. Think of your own social circle, and if there are any friends you have who have fallen out, then make a point of bringing them together
Dua of the Week;
Dua of Shu'aib (for Justice):
رَبَّنَا افْتَحْ بَيْنَنَا وَبَيْنَ قَوْمِنَا بِالْحَقِّ وَأَنتَ خَيْرُ الْفَاتِحِينَ
Rabbana iftah baynana wabayna qawmina bialhaqqi waanta khayru alfatiheena"
“Our Lord! Judge between us and our people in truth, for You are the Best of those who give judgment."
[Surah A'raf, verse 89]