thefinalmessage|THE FRIDAY NOTE
Weekly Hadith – Days of Hajj Dhul Hijjah;
Ibn ‘Abbaas (radiAllahu anhuma) reported that regarding the first 10 days of Dhul Hijjah, the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasallam) said: "There are no days in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allaah than these ten days." The people asked, "Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah?" He said, "Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah, except in the case of a man who went out to fight giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing."
[Reported by al-Bukhaari, 2/457]
Allaah (subhana wa taála) has created Time and has made some times better than others, some months and days and nights better than others, when rewards are multiplied many times, as a mercy towards His slaves. This encourages them to do more righteous deeds and makes them more eager to worship Him, so that the Muslim renews his efforts to gain a greater share of reward, prepare himself for death and supply himself in readiness for the Day of Judgement.
The first 10 days of Dhul-Hijjah are amongst the best of time created by Allah (subhana wa taála) as is clear from the above hadith. The scholars (rahimAllah) have confirmed that these days are even better than the last 10 days of Ramadan in terms of earning reward for good deeds, although the significance of the nights of the latter hold a higher weight. We should hence not waste this opportunity inshaÁllah, and increase in the good that we are able to do. It may not have been the year where we were able to go to Hajj and wash off all our sins, but we certainly can still benefit from the virtues of that this great month has to offer by availing the increased rewards for good deeds in the first 10 days.
Pearls of Wisdom – Sincere Prostration;
“If I could know for certain that Allah (subhana wa taála) has accepted even one of my prostrations, there would be no long lost friend more dearer to me than death itself”
[Abdullah ibn Umar (radiAllahu anhuma)]
Q. What does self confidence mean for the Muslim, and is that contrary to his need for his Lord, may He be exalted?
Praise be to Allaah.
In the Name of Allah, the most Merciful and Compassionate,
Firstly: Self-confidence is an acquired characteristic that the Muslim needs to know how to acquire so that he will be one of those who have self-confidence. But first of all he has to differentiate between self-confidence and arrogance.
Self-confidence means being aware of what Allah has given you of good characteristics and striving accordingly to attain that which will benefit you. If you misuse it you will be filled with arrogance and self admiration, which are two destructive problems. If you deny those blessings that have been given to you and the good characteristics that Allah has blessed you with, you will become lazy and apathetic; you will let yourself down and lose the blessings that Allah has given you. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Indeed he succeeds who purifies his ownself (i.e. obeys and performs all that Allaah ordered, by following the true Faith of Islamic Monotheism and by doing righteous good deeds).
“And indeed he fails who corrupts his ownself (i.e. disobeys what Allaah has ordered by rejecting the true Faith of Islamic Monotheism or by following polytheism, or by doing every kind of evil wicked deeds)”
It is worth pointing out something important here, which is that for the Muslim, having self-confidence does not mean that he does not need the help of his Lord, and it does not mean that he does not need his brothers and people in general to advise him and help him. This is what the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) asked his Lord for, which was: not to be left to himself (or to his own devices), not even for the blink of an eye!
It was narrated that Abu Bakrah said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The supplication of the one who is in distress: O Allaah, for Your mercy I hope, so do not abandon me to myself even for the blink of an eye. Set all my affairs straight, there is no god but You.”
[Narrated by Abu Dawood (5090)]
Al-Nasaa’i (10405) narrated from Anas, in a hadeeth that was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i, that these words are to be said morning and evening.
Secondly: Some of the things which we think will increase the Muslim’s self-confidence are:
1. Putting his trust in his Lord, depending upon Him and seeking support and help from Him.
The Muslim cannot do without his Lord, may He be exalted. As we mentioned above, self-confidence is an acquired characteristic, and the Muslim needs help and support from his Lord. The more he puts his trust in his Lord, the greater his self-confidence will grow and reach the highest level.
When Moosa and his people fled from Pharaoh and his troops, and the two sides saw one another, we see the trust that Moosa had in his Lord. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And when the two hosts saw each other, the companions of Moosa (Moses) said: ‘We are sure to be overtaken.’
[Moosa (Moses)] said: ‘Nay, verily, with me is my Lord. He will guide me’”
[al-Shu‘ara’ 26:61, 62]
2. Finding out what his strong points are and increasing them.
What he does well and developing it; and what his weak points are and trying to deal with them.
In order to develop self-confidence it is essential to look with gratitude at what Allah has given you of skills and characteristics, so that this will motivate you to strengthen your self-confidence. With regard to your weak points, you have to try to deal with them and develop them so that they reach the same level as your other, good skills and characteristics.
3. It is very important for the Muslim who is seeking ways of increasing his self-confidence not to repeat negative words, such as saying that he has no self-confidence or that he will never succeed at work.
4. The Muslim has to set specific goals for his life and check on the outcome time after time.
Because the person who is self-confident will make sure that his goal is achieved on the basis of good planning and with the help of his Lord.
5. The Muslim should seek righteous companions.
Because that will give him a motive to succeed and encourage him to make greater efforts. The righteous companions will not overlook their friend’s weak points; rather they will guide him to follow the better path. Thus good companions are one of the factors of success for the confident Muslim.
6. He should not be distracted by previous difficult experiences and past failures.
Because that will spoil his efforts and make him look down on what he has achieved of success. This is not something that the Muslim wants for himself.
Thirdly: Controlling one’s behaviour and actions is something that the Muslim can do and it is within his capabilities. Part of that is anger; the Muslim should be confident that he is able, with the help of his Lord, to rid himself of the evils and bad effects of anger and strive to mend his ways and discipline himself to adhere to the laws of Allah. This is something that is very easy indeed for the one who wants to achieve it, so long as he has a great deal of resolve to complete what he wants to achieve of disciplining himself and purifying his soul.
And Allah is the source of strength; may Allah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu alayhi wasallam) and his family and Companions (radiAllahu anhuma).
And Allaah (SWT) knows best.
Weekly Suggested Good Deed – Increase in your recitation of Tahleel;
Abdullaah ibn ‘Umar (radiAllah anhuma) reported that the Prophet (salAllaahu alayhi wasallam) said: "There are no days greater in the sight of Allaah and in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Him than these ten days (first 10 days of Dhul Hijjah), so during this time recite a great deal of Tahleel ("La ilaaha ill-Allaah"), Takbeer (Allahu Akbar) and Tahmeed (Alhamdulillah)."
[Reported by Ahmad, 7/224; Ahmad Shaakir stated that it is saheeh]
These are three very small phrases, but hold the highest of rewards. Every muslim knows how to recite these, and so there are not really any excuses for not being able to do this. So inshaÁllah we should all try to remember to recite these exalted words as often as we can.
Dua of the Week;
Dua for wanting a Pious Child:
رَبِّ هَبْ لِى مِن لَّدُنكَ ذُرِّيَّةًۭ طَيِّبَةً ۖ إِنَّكَ سَمِيعٱلدُّعَآءُ
[Surah Ale-Imran, 38]
“rabbi hablii mil ladunnka zhur-riy-yatan Tay-yibah: innaka samii-’Ud du’aa"
"Oh my Lord! Grant me from You, a good offspring. You are indeed the All-Hearer of invocation"